There's been a lot of excitement over Ms. Dewey. Various articles claiming that she's got this huge geek following and is the greatest thing since sliced bread when it comes to search.
It's understandable. She's attractive, personable, and looks like she's got a fun personality. But what most people don't think about is that she's an actress.
While I can't speak from experience about males of the acting profession, I have dated actresses, and that's why I have no interest in Ms. Dewey. As I once wrote about Angelina Jolie: "How I long for my younger, more naive days, back when I could meet a woman and look past her crazed and crumbling psyche to find the great rack within."
Actresses are fun... until they stop being fun. Dating an actress is like living on a manic depressive's roller coaster, but without the drugs. And if you've become enamored with a character they play(ed), it's worse, because the differences between them and the character they play can be immense. "I'm not your sexy, sane, perfect soulmate, but I play her on TV."
What's the difference between Ms. Dewey and the actress who plays her. Well, for one thing, the actress doesn't have a team of writers feeding her witty dialogue when you're alone together. She may well be a great conversationalist, but she might be dull as dirt. She might have a dirty apartment (and I mean that "burning it down and starting over would be easier than cleaning it" kind of dirty), she might have really bad PMS, she might want to introduce you to her spiritual leader who lives in a cave outside Ellensburg, she might go on "Oprah" and jump up and down on the couch as she yells about how much she loves you... You really don't know.
Besides the fact that it generally takes some serious mental oddness to not only be a good actor/actress, but even more of it to pursue it professionally, the person on screen who seduces you isn't the person you get off screen. And more importantly, that person you get offscreen usually ain't right in some significant way.
Now I'm not saying that all actors and actresses are self-involved, needy nutjobs. But enough are that I had a "no-actresses" dating policy for about 8 years before I got married and the few times I let myself be seduced into breaking it, I was always sorry.
So for those of you in love with Ms. Dewey... continue to love her from afar. As long as you do, she can always be perfect. But don't wish you could date her. That's the kind of wish that makes "may you get everything you wish for" a curse instead of a blessing.
Entries (RSS)